Between Friends feat. Jesse Davidson | Japanese Wallpaper

I really like this song. A lot. And I’ve spent the last couple of weeks trying to figure out why. I’ve been listening to the song over and over again trying to grasp why the words if you want to be my friend, stop trying to be my lover make me pause. I think I got it after hearing a line that I was apparently deaf to until today.

Please don’t think about the consequences The consequences to me.

For some reason that summed up something I could’t put my finger on. It unraveled something I couldn’t understand: why it’s hard for people to be friends after being lovers.

Maybe it’s because they’re still trying to be a lover, in a way, instead of being a friend. Maybe it’s because they’re focusing on the role they think they’re supposed to play in someone’s life rather than being, or not being, in that person’s life authentically. Maybe they’re thinking more about the consequences of what they’re doing to that person rather than thinking about that person themselves. 

Yeah. It might be better if they stopped trying to be a lover and were just a friend. 

Or maybe they are.

But they’re just not that good of a friend.