Break Apart | Bonobo + Rhye

You’re my favorite.

But we’re phasing.

I’ve always loved this song. And I’ve always loved that line.

When I heard Rhye describe it on Song Exploder in 2017, it made my heart stop for a second. The way he compared a breakup to two sine waves hitting each other each and creating this distorted sound, this distorted feeling, perfectly articulated the imperceptible shift I’ve felt when someone moved from being this person that fits with me to this person that makes me feel dissonance.

This song has made me feel better about breaking up with boyfriends. But right now it’s helping me breathe through a different dissonance. It’s helping me through a rough time with someone who’s been in my life so long that this clash is hitting a nerve. Someone so close to me that we call each other siblings. Someone so on my wavelength that we’ve called our relationship lambda.

There’s a shift happening between us right now. And I don’t know what to do.

But I’m beginning to realize, that maybe I don’t do anything. And maybe I just ride this out…until we find the same wave again.

You’re my favorite.

But we’re phasing.